Why Do People Settle?
We research, We shop around, and finally find exactly what we want and need, only to turn around and Settle for something Less.
As a Flooring Design Consultant it is my responsibility to help people find exactly what type of flooring they want and the style of flooring that will best suit their needs. All to often I will work with a client to find the perfect match for their needs for a practical price. We review all the types of flooring that are available, consider the style of décor they want to achieve and what style of flooring will look, wear and clean the best for the needs of their household, only to have them make a sudden turn and SETTLE for something less than what they want. I work with my clients for days, weeks and sometimes years to help them find exactly what they want. And after all the work and careful consideration, we finally come to a conclusion that is best suited to their needs. After this process I will give them an estimate for the cost for what they have decided they want and need, and this is where I can usually expect the “Settle” to take place. I tell them a price and while looking them in the eyes I await the common response; “Do you have something a little cheaper”? At this point I am ready to throw my tape measure into the trash and walk slowly into the sunset (but I don’t). I will quite simply tell them “Of course I do”, but what I want to tell them is something entirely different. “After all this work and consideration we have found the exact flooring you want that will wear the best, clean the easiest and give your home décor the look you are trying to achieve and suddenly you want to Settle”!
I am not too hard on my clients though, because I am also guilty of the same offense. It is not an offense that is directed toward anyone in particular, It is really an offense against ourselves. It has taken me many years and many mistakes to come to a certain conclusion. IT DOES NOT PAY TO SETTLE! In the past I would usually research an item I need or want and find the perfect thing for the need I have only to settle for something that costs less and does not do all that I need it to do. I often found that after trying to make do with an inferior product, I would usually go back and buy the thing I wanted in the first place, but by this time it is too late to exchange or return the original item so what I did was end up paying for something I did not really want the first time, and finally buy what I did want later. After years of doing this it finally hit me that I was paying almost twice as much for the item I truly wanted in the first place. And as I thought about it further, it occurred to me that the majority of the time the price difference between what I really wanted and what I had Settled for was not that much. On average there is about a $100 to $500 dollar difference to buy what you really need and want. In the overall scheme of things it becomes clear that the true Bargain is to buy what you really wanted the first time around.
What is it about us as human beings that cause us to settle for less than what we want? Is it purely monetary (is it greed)? Or is it something that is ingrained into our psyche that tells us that we simply cannot have what we truly want? Did our parents pass this bad decision process down to us by continually telling us that they could not afford what we wanted (Money does not grow on trees!)? What exactly causes us to Settle for something less than what we want?
I have come to the conclusion that is has nothing to do with money because we tend to settle for less in every aspect of our lives. When a young lady decides she needs a boyfriend, she has an image in her mind of what that boyfriend should be. How he should look, what kind of personality and character he should have, in other words, she knows exactly what she is looking for in a boyfriend or potential mate. If she is wise she will patiently wait until the man of her dreams becomes evident, but along comes the pressure to have a boyfriend and to have him Now (everyone knows you have to kiss a lot of Frogs until you find your handsome Prince)! So they settle for a young man who is not anything like the man of their dreams, and quite often will be the exact opposite of a handsome prince. I see far too many beautiful young ladies that have settled for a controlling and abusive Toad, when they should have waited just a little longer and they would have their Prince. But now they will never find their Prince because the Frog controls them. Do you see how Settling affects every aspect of our lives? I could give you example after example, but I think you get my meaning.
So many of us are Settling for less than what we truly desire in life. We are settling in our relationships, in our thought life and even in our spiritual life and this is all due to our selfish desire to get what we want NOW, even if we have to give up our dreams, goals and aspirations. Even if it means we have to suffer great hardship, we will settle for now, until our true dream comes to pass. The only problem with this approach to life is that as long as you are caught up in the Less you will never achieve the More. If you settle now, you may never get your hearts true desire, or you will have to wait longer and work harder to finally get closer to your hearts desire. When we achieve our hearts desire we call it success. My friends, there are far too many of us living a life of mediocrity when we deserve success. And there are far too many approaches to success not to get out there and try one. Pick a path to your dreams and stick with it until you achieve the desired results. Do Not Settle! Life is far too short.
Going back to my original example with my clients. If they would only be willing to spend a little more now, they would be happier in the future. If you settle for a cheap floor, you will always be unhappy with it, until whenever or if ever you can change it. And so it goes. If you are unhappy with your life don’t expect it to get better until you decide to take the leap of faith, and finally find the path to your dreams.
If you would like a better Area Rug, check out my web site http://rugrunnerbiz.com . Don’t settle for a cheap chain-store imitation. If you would like a better Job, check out my web site for Business Opportunities that may appeal to you (or if you need a unique way to market your business). If you want a better relationship with others, work on your relationship with God first and the rest will follow. If you take a step forward and act on Faith, your desires Can be obtained. You Do Not Have To Settle!
My Favorite Quote is from Jesus of Nazereth: “Ask and it shall be given you; seek and you shall find; knock and it shall be opened to you.”
We research, We shop around, and finally find exactly what we want and need, only to turn around and Settle for something Less.
As a Flooring Design Consultant it is my responsibility to help people find exactly what type of flooring they want and the style of flooring that will best suit their needs. All to often I will work with a client to find the perfect match for their needs for a practical price. We review all the types of flooring that are available, consider the style of décor they want to achieve and what style of flooring will look, wear and clean the best for the needs of their household, only to have them make a sudden turn and SETTLE for something less than what they want. I work with my clients for days, weeks and sometimes years to help them find exactly what they want. And after all the work and careful consideration, we finally come to a conclusion that is best suited to their needs. After this process I will give them an estimate for the cost for what they have decided they want and need, and this is where I can usually expect the “Settle” to take place. I tell them a price and while looking them in the eyes I await the common response; “Do you have something a little cheaper”? At this point I am ready to throw my tape measure into the trash and walk slowly into the sunset (but I don’t). I will quite simply tell them “Of course I do”, but what I want to tell them is something entirely different. “After all this work and consideration we have found the exact flooring you want that will wear the best, clean the easiest and give your home décor the look you are trying to achieve and suddenly you want to Settle”!
I am not too hard on my clients though, because I am also guilty of the same offense. It is not an offense that is directed toward anyone in particular, It is really an offense against ourselves. It has taken me many years and many mistakes to come to a certain conclusion. IT DOES NOT PAY TO SETTLE! In the past I would usually research an item I need or want and find the perfect thing for the need I have only to settle for something that costs less and does not do all that I need it to do. I often found that after trying to make do with an inferior product, I would usually go back and buy the thing I wanted in the first place, but by this time it is too late to exchange or return the original item so what I did was end up paying for something I did not really want the first time, and finally buy what I did want later. After years of doing this it finally hit me that I was paying almost twice as much for the item I truly wanted in the first place. And as I thought about it further, it occurred to me that the majority of the time the price difference between what I really wanted and what I had Settled for was not that much. On average there is about a $100 to $500 dollar difference to buy what you really need and want. In the overall scheme of things it becomes clear that the true Bargain is to buy what you really wanted the first time around.
What is it about us as human beings that cause us to settle for less than what we want? Is it purely monetary (is it greed)? Or is it something that is ingrained into our psyche that tells us that we simply cannot have what we truly want? Did our parents pass this bad decision process down to us by continually telling us that they could not afford what we wanted (Money does not grow on trees!)? What exactly causes us to Settle for something less than what we want?
I have come to the conclusion that is has nothing to do with money because we tend to settle for less in every aspect of our lives. When a young lady decides she needs a boyfriend, she has an image in her mind of what that boyfriend should be. How he should look, what kind of personality and character he should have, in other words, she knows exactly what she is looking for in a boyfriend or potential mate. If she is wise she will patiently wait until the man of her dreams becomes evident, but along comes the pressure to have a boyfriend and to have him Now (everyone knows you have to kiss a lot of Frogs until you find your handsome Prince)! So they settle for a young man who is not anything like the man of their dreams, and quite often will be the exact opposite of a handsome prince. I see far too many beautiful young ladies that have settled for a controlling and abusive Toad, when they should have waited just a little longer and they would have their Prince. But now they will never find their Prince because the Frog controls them. Do you see how Settling affects every aspect of our lives? I could give you example after example, but I think you get my meaning.
So many of us are Settling for less than what we truly desire in life. We are settling in our relationships, in our thought life and even in our spiritual life and this is all due to our selfish desire to get what we want NOW, even if we have to give up our dreams, goals and aspirations. Even if it means we have to suffer great hardship, we will settle for now, until our true dream comes to pass. The only problem with this approach to life is that as long as you are caught up in the Less you will never achieve the More. If you settle now, you may never get your hearts true desire, or you will have to wait longer and work harder to finally get closer to your hearts desire. When we achieve our hearts desire we call it success. My friends, there are far too many of us living a life of mediocrity when we deserve success. And there are far too many approaches to success not to get out there and try one. Pick a path to your dreams and stick with it until you achieve the desired results. Do Not Settle! Life is far too short.
Going back to my original example with my clients. If they would only be willing to spend a little more now, they would be happier in the future. If you settle for a cheap floor, you will always be unhappy with it, until whenever or if ever you can change it. And so it goes. If you are unhappy with your life don’t expect it to get better until you decide to take the leap of faith, and finally find the path to your dreams.
If you would like a better Area Rug, check out my web site http://rugrunnerbiz.com . Don’t settle for a cheap chain-store imitation. If you would like a better Job, check out my web site for Business Opportunities that may appeal to you (or if you need a unique way to market your business). If you want a better relationship with others, work on your relationship with God first and the rest will follow. If you take a step forward and act on Faith, your desires Can be obtained. You Do Not Have To Settle!
My Favorite Quote is from Jesus of Nazereth: “Ask and it shall be given you; seek and you shall find; knock and it shall be opened to you.”
Charles Beason,
chazbeason@rugrunnerbiz.com
chazbeason@rugrunnerbiz.com
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